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“RED FLAGS Can Seriously Damage Your Relationship” What to do next… Photo by Afif Ramdhasuma on Unsplash Let’s face it. All couples have a communication breakdown from time to time. Some more than others. When it happens, neither partner feels close or connected in the moment. The sad truth is that far too often couples stay stuck in …

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Will These Arguments Ever Stop? And how couples can avoid them… Photo by Etienne Boulanger on Unsplash You woke up this morning, feeling hurt and frustrated from the argument the night before with your husband. You usually enjoy your morning coffee and a little meditation. But this morning you’re feeling like you’re just going through the motions of …

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“She Only Thinks About Herself. What About Me?” What to do next… sarah-b-4VRGJ40okqI-unsplash Meet Steve and Sara. 20 years ago, when they were deeply in love and planning for their wedding, they both shared with their family and friends how blessed they were to have found each other. “I really love how I feel when …

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Why Does Your “Date Night” Turn into “Argue Night”?  Arguments ayo-ogunseinde-1Dsvt_XAclw-unsplash                                                                                            …

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Tip for Success in Love, Marriage, and Life: Connection Vision – Connection Pillar – luca-bravo-t3ItLqF-PPU-unsplash “I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.” – Brené Brown They fell deeply in …

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Tip for Success in Love, Marriage, and Life: Integrity “People of integrity and honesty not only practice what they preach, they are what they preach.” – David A. Bednar Meet Ivan and Ida. They have been married for 30 years. They don’t have children but do have two fur babies living with them. They also have …

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Tip for Success in Love, Marriage, and Life: Respect Pillars lismar-perez-PtCAQZf0Vo4-unsplash “You don’t respect me!”, Reggie says to Regina in frustration and anger”. You’re always criticizing me and telling me what I am doing wrong”. “Why do you talk to me like this?” “Because I don’t respect you!” Ouch! This is a snippet of an argument …

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Tip for Success in Love, Marriage, and Life: Empathy Pillars lismar-perez-PtCAQZf0Vo4-unsplash “I keep telling you what I feel, and you won’t listen!”, Esther yells out in anger in frustration. “When I try to talk to you, I feel like I am talking to a brick wall” “You say you understand, but you don’t. You keep telling …

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Tip for Success in Love, Marriage, and Life: Forgiveness Vincent and Veronica have been married for over 20 years. Like most long-term married couples they have had their ups and downs. However, both would tell you that marriage is strong. Well, that was until Veronica discovered that Vincent had been having an affair. marcos-paulo-prado-YMQiKI2L1z0-unsplash Veronica was …

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Tip for Success in Love, Marriage, and Life: Intimacy Thank you for joining me for the continuation of the series on 7 Pillars of Success in Love, Marriage in Life The first pillar in this series was about Commitment — couples making and keeping promises about how they will show up for each other in the …

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